As nominees hit their Hail-Mary cleanses and agents lay the
groundwork for post-Oscar quote hikes, the town's army of shrinks is
soothing the roiling emotions that lie beneath the
just-glad-to-be-nominated miens of Oscar hopefuls. Dennis Palumbo, a
Sherman Oaks-based licensed psychotherapist who specializes in treating
Hollywood creatives, recalls one memorable Oscar session: "I had one
patient, a big-name director nominated for an Oscar, whose psychic
predicted he'd win. The day before the show, he told me that another
nominated director — a friend of his — was told by his psychic that he'd win. Turned out to be the same psychic. And neither man won. My patient's response? 'Now I don't know who
to trust.' " He continues: "We all know that thing where you see the
five nominees and then watch the frozen plastic smiles on the faces of
the losers," says a sympathetic Palumbo. "I've had patients with that
frozen smile and thought, 'It's going to be about six weeks here in the
office with this guy.' "
Working in Hollywood is stressful, but when Oscar season rolls
around, a heightened wave of anxiety sets in for even the most seasoned
veterans. "I have been to a lot of these ceremonies, and each time it
feels like I had never done it before. The flashes seem brighter, the
carpet seems crazier," says best supporting actor nominee Jeff Bridges (Hell or High Water), who took home the Oscar for best actor for 2010's Crazy Heart. "I still get stressed out at the idea of saying something. My mind overloads."
Bridges is not alone. Whether you're an actor or an agent, the Oscars
can bring on a set of anxiety-ridden behaviors, starting with
nomination announcements and continuing through campaigning, awards
shows and the aftermath. "I have tremendous compassion for people both
nominated and not nominated, because it's like getting a report card
when you're a kid," says Palumbo. "Some people find that [the Oscars] is
the arbiter of how they can feel about themselves."
HOW OSCARS STRESS MANIFESTS IN HOLLYWOOD
'The most common form of anxiety across the board at this time of
year is insomnia, says Philip Pierce, a clinical psychologist with Oscar
winners among his patients who sees them "waking up in the middle of
the night and not being able to get back to sleep over the uncertainty
and the stakes." Other symptoms include substance abuse, low-grade
depression, disturbed appetite and spending sprees — which can simulate a
low-grade version of the adrenaline rush that comes with winning an
award. "There's this thing where they just zone out, and it's all across
the board — it could be producers, actors, directors — they sit there
in front of their computer and just go shopping," says psychotherapist
Larry Shaw, who treats patients across the industry spectrum. "[It gives
them] control. Whether it's on eBay or Amazon, you stick it in the cart
and you've 'won.' "
THE BIG PSYCHE DIVIDE: ACTORS, AGENTS AND EVERYBODY ELSE
Nominees who don't spend time in front of cameras, including writers
and producers, are typically the most anxious about awards season,
according to Pierce. "They're very much worried about the public
aspects, talking to people they don't know and being in a strange
situation," he says. "My directors, on the other hand, just assume
they're going to win."
Actors generally are less stressed about campaigning, though there is
the sheer physical exhaustion involved with engaging in endless red
carpets, awards shows, junkets and photo shoots. "It seems like there is
a lot more campaigning these days," says Bridges. "There ought to be a
special award for the best campaigner." But high visibility also puts
talent at a greater risk for emotional distress, according to David
Levy, a professor of psychology at Pepperdine University. "When you're
the actor, you are the product. If you've written a screenplay, you're
attached to your baby. If you've directed a film, it's your product. But
when you're a performer, you are the commodity. So when you
get rejected, it's you." For some talent, "ironically, they have
conflicting feelings about being in the spotlight," adds Mari Murao, a
Beverly Hills psychotherapist with nominated patients. "A part of them
seeks it out, and often nothing terrifies them more."
Even agents and managers have their issues. "It would surprise my
creative patients to know how much fear reps have, fear that their
client is going to leave them if they become successful," says Palumbo.
"Creative types never see their reps as fear-driven. They transfer
parental feelings on to them. I can't tell you how many times I've had
to say to a patient, 'She's your agent, not your mother.' "
Levy also sees some reps taking their clients' nominations
personally. "Part of it is financial. If they're an agent or a manager
and their client wins an award, it means more work and a higher asking
price, and they're going to make more percentage on the next job." But
it's ego-driven, too: "They feel personally let down if things don't
work out the way they want them to."
THE AGONY OF DEFEAT
When it comes to Oscar night, Palumbo says some patients ask their
families not to watch the broadcast because they can't bear to have them
see their reaction if they lose. One A-list patient, nominated for best
supporting actress, asked him to "let us use our session to practice
her 'good loser' face in case the camera was on her when one of the
other actresses won," says Palumbo. (A new low-downtime surgery is also
an option; see page 102.) "I suggested we concentrate on her self-esteem
issues instead."
Losing sets off feelings of failure and lack of self-worth — "a lot
of negative self-talk," says Shaw. But "most of this stuff is beyond
your control," cautions Levy. "A lot of this is luck, happenstance. And
some of it is politics." Levy encourages his losing clients to talk
about feelings, "but certainly not in the public arena." It's an ego
issue, he says, "and that's what I try to help them reduce," using
therapy to get his patients to not take things personally. "They're too
attached to the winning and losing."
THE ANXIETY — AND GUILT — OF VICTORY
Winning a coveted statuette comes with its own unique stresses. The
acceptance speech is the star of many a session on the couch. Even
confident directors ask, "What if I win and I've got to go up?" says
Jeffrey Blume, a licensed psychologist in Beverly Hills
who has worked with creative talent for 25 years, adding that he
deploys hypnotherapy or deep relaxation to "try to help them imagine
going up onstage and practicing while they're relaxed. So when they
actually get up there, they can be relaxed."
Some people feel survivor's guilt, that they won and deserving others
didn't. "It's hard sometimes for people to take in success and they
feel guilty. Their friend or colleague didn't win," says Blume. Adds
Pierce, "Many very successful people in the business have the
deep-seated fear that they're a fraud," he says, adding that these
patients often see their anxiety increasing after an Oscar triumph, "as
they believe now they will surely be exposed."
After all the excitement and celebration, post-Oscar blues can be
common, followed by stress over ever measuring up again. "I had a writer
come in a year ago with their award," says Blume. "He had the anxiety
of, 'Now I'm supposed to write another masterpiece and I don't have any
ideas.' " Directors might apply extra pressure to themselves "because of
the auteur theory — if you are nominated or win an Oscar for best
director, you're in the company of Billy Wilder, John Ford, Steven
Spielberg, Stanley Kubrick, the real heavyweight pantheon," says
Palumbo. The sentiment that you're only as good as your last Oscar, says
Levy, and the expectations can be tremendous: "How do you top that? For
most people, you can't." Levy suggests clients look to past winners and
losers to see how they conducted themselves. "This is uncharted
territory for most people, but if you look at who has been in that
situation, they all have similar struggles, so the commonality in that
is helpful." In fact, says Palumbo: "I think it's better to be nominated
than to win. When you force the town to up your fee because you've won
an Oscar, the expectation is, the next project better be great, or we're
being taken advantage of. You're setting yourself up for failure."
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